Sunday, November 11, 2007

Loss




No stories today. An old friend has died.

She was a lovely, lovely young woman when I knew her. We were on dance team together, we were both editors on our school paper so many years ago. She went on to become an oncologist and was killed by the disease she sought to treat in others.

She was 35.

She was my friend a long time ago.
Here is an excerpt from her obituary:
From the fall of 2005 until just days before her death she was an active contributor to the youngsurvival.org message board for young woman afflicted with cancer. The comments posted before and after her death speak to the value of her presence to the other women on the board. One said. “I think we all immediately moved towards her post because we knew the tone: always kind, informative, loving, with humor thrown in for good measure. We will truly miss her.” Another said, “I remember posting about a letter someone left me that said “chemo makes tumor spread in MICE,” Melinda replied, “YOU AREN’T A MOUSE.” I read her comment, laughed, turned off my computer and had a great day.”

25 comments:

flutter said...

Rest well, sweet friend.

BipolarLawyerCook said...

Thinking of you.

crazymumma said...

Oh 35. So very young. so sad. I'm so sorry.

BetteJo said...

Oh how I hate cancer.
So sorry.

amanda said...

God speed....

Kellan said...

Jen - I am so sorry - she was so beautiful and so young - too young.

Fairly Odd Mother said...

So sorry for you and for her. Cancer sucks.

Annie said...

I am so sorry. She was my age. Frightening.

jen said...

peace to her. sweet peace.

Beck said...

Oh. Looking at her delighted face, thinking of her being taken from her life so young - awful. I'm so sorry.

Magpie said...

Oh, heartbreaking.

itsmythyroid! said...

cancer sucks.

Kathryn said...

So sorry to hear of your loss. She sounds like an amazing person.

Mrs. G. said...

What a beauty.

Nancy said...

Celebrate her life ... and keep alive her obviously loved spirit.

I am so sorry Jen, for the loss that you are feeling.

She is beautiful, inside and out.

Cathy said...

Oh, so very sorry.

What a beautiful woman, judging not only by the photo, but by what others said about her.

bermudabluez said...

I am truly sorry for your loss.

Family Adventure said...

I'm sorry. It's not fair. At any age, but especially not at 35. The obituary leaves an impression of a very brave woman. I wish the best for those she left behind.

Heidi

suburbancorrespondent said...

It's as if a part of your youth dies also, when you lose a long-ago friend like that. So sorry.

Jessica @ A Bushel and a Peck said...

I'm so sorry. You and your friend and her family are in my thoughts and prayers.

Crystal said...

Jen, I am so sorry for your loss. May she rest in peace.

Audubon Ron said...

ARCI Your write it; I read it!

Sorry for your loss.

the dragonfly said...

I'm so sorry for your loss.

I hate things like this...not only because they're awful, but because there is never a right thing to say.

WorksForMom said...

Wow, I am so sincerely sorry. How terribly tragic.

Just Seeking said...

Oh Jen, I am so sorry. How horrible. I hope you are doing okay. Please let me know if I can help.